Bringing up swinging in a conversation with people whose responses are still unpredictable is always hard to do. You are not sure whether the people you are talking to are swingers or swinging couples, and you would want to know without risking too much exposure, right?

I have probably mentioned this trick before, but it is indeed one of the oldest tricks in the book and it can be used to discretely find out if someone is swinging — or comfortable with you being a swinger. What you need to do is find a booklet, journal, magazine, or other publications about swinging and leave it around in places where the person you are trying to figure out will most likely see. You can do this trick to find out if a couple is interested, if someone is already a swinger, or even just to see if someone would freak out if you tell them that you are swinging.

How can exactly we determine their thoughts about swinging? Once they discovered the publication, there are two common responses. The first one is they ask questions directly. You can say things like a friend gave you the publication or other similar reasons, and then state that you think reading the publication was interesting. People who are actually swingers will share their experiences, people who are comfortable with swinging will show no eminent reactions and remain calm while asking probe questions, while people who just can’t live with the idea will surely freak out or act negatively as soon as you said the publication was interesting. Pretty easy, right?